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This handbook is exactly that, a "reference book" for those who want to learn more about this aspect of BDSM play. Until now, there were "bondage" sections in books like SM 101, Screw the Roses, etc but Jay has devoted an entire book to this activity.

Jay has done bondage play for years and years and his experience and knowledge shows through here. As with other books Jay has written, this book is full of safety cautions and health risks related to doing bondage.

Among the sections in the book include a little bit of "theory" on bondage, different types of rope that can be used, different ways to do single or double-limb bondage, breast bondage (a personal fave!), spread-eagled bondage, and bondage equipment.

I like Jay's assertion that you don't need to learn a lot of knots to do good bondage. I'm glad to hear that because I don't know very many knots myself!

A well-written and very informative book.

 

http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/193116049X/ref=sib_dp_pt/103-2039584-7363850#reader-link Two Knotty Boys Showing You The Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage (Paperback)
by Two Knotty Boys (Author), Larry Utley

Book Description
 
When Two Knotty Boys, Dan and J. D., began teaching rope bondage together in 1999, they discovered that most people learn best when they're shown — close up, step by step, and repeatedly — how to tie basic knots and combine them into bondage techniques. It is this learning process that they duplicate in this book. With the help of world-renowned photographer Larry Utley, they use over 750 photos and captions to explicate the soup-to-nuts techniques for turning great knots into great bondage that is safe, sensual, attractive, and effective. Readers can learn at their own pace, review whole techniques at a single glance, or even lay it flat on the table (beside their blindfolded partner) and follow along as they tie. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes appeals to those interested in improving the quality of their sex lives, not to mention aficionados of bondage and discipline/sadomasochism (BDSM), both curious newcomers and serious players alike.

 


 

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The Fetish Fact Book (Mass Market Paperback)
by Paul Scott (Author)
 
Book Description
Fetishism has been an enduring element at the cutting edge of style for decades. It hints at decadence and danger and speaks the language of the rebel. This accessible treasure trove of kinky delights is packed full of facts about the influence of fetish on popular culture, design, advertising, cult TV and art, as well as the role of fetish icons in cinema, music and literature.
 
Erotic X-Treme (Hardcover)
by Jean-Paul Four (Author)
 
 
 
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How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM (Paperback)
by Morpheous (Author)
 
 
http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/1881943135/ref=sib_dp_pt/103-2039584-7363850#reader-link The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle (Paperback)
by Jack Rinella (Author), Joseph W. Bean (Editor) "It's safe, sane, and consensual activity between two or more persons, it involves various forms of domination and submission, and it generally includes the infliction..." 
Book Description
In this highly anticipated followup to The Master's Manual, author jack Rinella continues his in-depth exploration and discussion of Dominant/submissive relationships with his latest book, The Compleat Slave. This informative overview of the leather scene features Rinella's guidelines, tips, and personal experiences in creating safe and sane Master/slave relationships. Whether you are a novice or an experienced Master or slave, this insightful and forthright volume will prove to be a great read and a valuable reference guide
 
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Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave: Theory and Practice (Paperback)
by Robert J. Rubel, PhD (Author)
Product Description
While recognizing that every Master creates individualized protocols for a slave, this book is an example of a real protocol manual in a real-life situation. The content is virtually the same as the content for "Protocol Manual for the Female slave," except while that book assumes that the Master is male and that the slave is female, this book is gender-neutral. So, if you're a Female Master with either a male or female slave, this is the better book of the two for you to buy. This guide demonstrates a range of ways for a slave to express love for his/her Master through action. In this case, actions include ways of standing, sitting and speaking (ways of being) as well as ways of preparing things to please Master in a consensual "Master/slave" relationship. The book covers formal Leather protocols as well as a range of personal rituals, such as formal dinner service. As much as anything else, this is a book of etiquette and service within the Leather-BDSM culture.
 
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/images/1887895566/ref=dp_image_0/103-2039584-7363850?ie=UTF8&n=283155&s=booksBDSM Primer (Paperback)
by Ralph White (Author
Product Description
With the proliferation of the Internet into our lives, there is an explosion of people wanting to find out about the BDSM lifestyle and culture. They turn to the net because they can do so without their wife, husband, boss, neighbor, etc. finding out about their kinky interests. To be sure, there is a wealth of information on the internet, and some of it is actually correct too! The key problem with using the Internet as a source for information is that what you are reading is often incomplete or not balanced. The author of the information is providing what he/she believes to be correct, but does not make an effort to say: "There are other opinions." The Internet has created a whole sub-culture inside of the BDSM lifestyle. There are just some things that you can't do on-line that you can do in real life. For example, in real life a slave might avoid eye contact to show deference and respect. You can't do that on-line, or you can't read the screen. So, in the on-line world, we use conventions like capitalizing dominant's names and not capitalizing submissive's names. If a person's only experience is on-line, they assume that this is a "rule" that everyone knows and follows. . . . It isn't! There are as many combinations of "rules" as there are people to make them, and not one is universal. In this volume, Ralph White strives to present not only his point-of-view, but other views to which he doesn't necessarily subscribe. The overriding principle in his book is: "If it works for you, it is okay for you." In this text you will find chapters dealing with these topics:  Chapter 1: So, you think you're kinky?  Chapter 2: Kinkiness and Religion  Chapter 3: Collars  Chapter 4: Limits  Chapter 5: Relationships  Chapter 6: The Internet  Chapter 7: To "Sir" or not to "Sir" (Protocol)  Chapter 8: What if something goes wrong?  Chapter 9: Dealing with the 'nillas  Chapter 10: Fantasy or reality?  Glossary Each chapter is accompanied by a fictional story that is intended to entertain the reader. However, through the entertainment, hopefully a sense of reality will be gained as well.
 
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"I Liked Your Profile": Experiences in Gay Online Dating (Paperback)
by Scott W. Davies (Author)
Book Description
Are you a single gay male looking to find a decent relationship but feel the bar scene is not the place?

 

Have you ever contemplated online dating but didn't know what to expect?

Have you seen those advertisements that make it appear true love and romance are just a simple Internet site away?

I Liked Your Profile: Experiences In Gay Online Dating is a brutally honest look into one man's four-year journey through online dating. I Liked Your Profile exposes a number of patterns and behaviors to be aware of when corresponding with people online. The stories are funny, bizarre, sad, and even frightening. Not only does I Liked Your Profile reveal many of the dysfunctions in the world of gay online dating, but also takes an unapologetic look at the gay community as a whole. If you've ever felt out of place as a gay man, I Liked Your Profile will let you know you are not alone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



















Fitness Article - Get Out and Play: Top 7 Outdoor Exercises

Do you remember when our parents used to yell at us to go outside and play? They would get so tired of us running around the house munching junk food and fighting with our siblings that they would practically kick us out of the house!

Well, we may not have the same child-like activities lined up to get outside for anymore, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't still get out and enjoy the world! Exercising outdoors has many benefits, and they include the following:

Little or no equipment needed to get a good workout

No crowded gyms or obnoxious people to put up with

No driving time to the local fitness facility

No need to put on makeup or special clothing to workout at the gym

Vitamin D enhancing sunshine for our skin

The ability to workout anytime, anywhere - even on vacation

Two words: Fresh Air

There are probably other reasons that you can think of why an outdoor workout would fit into your particular lifestyle, so now all you have to do is learn what kind of activities can be done outside.

Refer to the following Top 7 list of exercises that are sure to leave you sweaty, worn out, and feeling great when it's all over!

LUNGES

Like all exercises, lunges should be done with absolutely perfect form. When done correctly, a lunge will work every single muscle in your legs at some point throughout the movement, including the all important Gluteus Maximus (that's the primary buttocks muscle, for those of you not anatomically inclined).

Variations on lunges that require no equipment include; Standing Lunges, Alternating Lunges, Elevated Lunges, Rear Lunges, and Walking Lunges.

PUSH UPS

Push ups have always been one of the most effective upper body exercises, but they have somehow gotten lost in the world of shiny chest press machines and fleets of various types of exercise benches. However, the push up is still an incredibly productive exercise, and it requires no equipment whatsoever.

The 3 basic push up movements include Standard Grip, Wide Grip, and Close Grip. Alternating those 3 types will ensure maximal stimulation to the chest, shoulders, and triceps. In addition, you can elevate your hands to make the movement somewhat easier, or elevate your feet to make the movement somewhat harder.

Also, if you are really feeling brave, you can even throw in some Bounce and Clap Push Ups!

SQUATS

Many people simply don't understand the incredible power of doing a Squat the right way. Through improper instruction, inappropriate form, and just plain laziness, the incredible effectiveness of the Squat has been lost in the mix.

Variations including Standing Squats, One-Leg Squats, Plie Squats, Wide-Stance Squats, and Overhead Squats. Think you can't get enough stimulus out of Squats? Try doing 50 perfectly formed repetitions and see how tired your legs are!

STEP UPS

Brutal is the best word to describe this exercise when done properly! Using nothing more than a picnic bench, a piece of playground equipment, or even just a decent size rock, you simply step up onto your elevated surface, step down, and then repeat on the other side alternating back and forth. By keeping your back straight and your head up the entire time, you will maximize recruitment of all of your leg muscles, and you will get an incredible cardiovascular workout as well. Go for perfect form and you will quickly see the benefit of this great exercise.

CHIN UPS

The outdoor version of Chin Ups and Pull ups can be done using anything from a low-hanging tree branch to any number of different pieces of playground equipment.

When done properly, Chin Ups and Pull Ups will humble most people, even avid exercisers. Bring your body up completely until your chin is at or above your hands, and lower back to the start under control. Repeat for as many as you can do!

UPHILL SPRINTS

Don't try this one until you can run a good 100-yard dash on level ground! This exercise is just what it sounds like - running uphill. Run up a decent size hill as fast as you can, walk back to the bottom, and repeat. Bring oxygen, but leave your pride at home, or else the hill will take it from you!

DUCK WALKS

This exercise is so simple, yet about as hard as it gets. Simply squat down until your thighs are at or below parallel to the ground, stay in that position, and start walking. Go about 10 steps and then walk backwards to your starting point. Repeat as many times as necessary (which won't be many) to reach total exhaustion!

As you can see, doing outdoor exercises has all of the benefits listed above including one benefit that wasn't listed - they are hard! If you are up to the challenge and sick of the gym, give your body and your mind an Earth-moment and get outside and play!

About the Author

Aaron Potts is a Personal Trainer and Fitness Success Coach whose customers include consumers as well as other fitness professionals. Sign up for his free Fitness Journal at http://www.fitnessdestinations.com or visit his coaching site at http://www.ptsuccesscoach.com  
CNNMoney.com
15 ways to live more cheaply
Tuesday June 13, 8:54 pm ET


The opportunities to run short on cash seem to grow exponentially as your life grows more complex. Whether you've just been laid off, had a new baby, bought a house or are paying dearly for past sins, you're feeling the pinch. But there are some easy ways to pocket more money without compromising real pleasures or cutting out too many conveniences.

Here are 15 ideas from leading frugality experts.

Shop sparingly. Ever go to a mall thinking you'll buy one thing then just browse and see what else you need? Welcome to the crowd, said Vicki Robin, coauthor of "Your Money or Your Life."

Much of the shopping we do is what she characterizes as frivolous shopping. "It's a huge money sink. It's what we spend unconsciously, habitually, impulsively," she said.

It's better to keep a running list of what you need, and shop only when the tally is long enough to justify the trip. If you shop with friends for entertainment, consider other enjoyable diversions: Go out for tea, take a walk together or have each other over for dinner.

Give creatively. You can "express love twice with one gift" by giving a donation to a favorite charity in the names of friends or family members instead of buying them something for birthdays and holidays, Robin suggested.

You and the recipient have the satisfaction of knowing the money is being used for a good cause, and you get to take a tax deduction if you itemize. If money's really tight, consider giving "time coupons" -- i.e., your time for a service, such as a series of weekly half-hour massages, suggested Shel Horowitz, author of "The Penny-Pinching Hedonist."

If you do plan on buying gifts, set price caps that fit your budget and stick to them. There are plenty of satisfying gifts under $25, Horowitz said.

Get groceries for the long haul. The most expensive thing you can do is shop for food you need this week, since you're likely to pay premium prices, said Mary Hunt, founder and editor of the newsletter Cheapskate Monthly.

Her suggestion: Except for food that spoils easily, shop for foods and staples when they're on sale and buy enough for several weeks' worth. For emergency short-term savings, she suggests skipping grocery shopping altogether until you have used up all the food that's been sitting in your house for weeks.

Use cash to pay for food. Hunt also recommends paying for food with cash. "You're a smarter shopper when you go into the store with $30 in your pocket," Hunt said.

Debit cards, which draw money directly from your bank account, are a bad idea, she said, since they make more money available to you than you need and encourage impulse purchases.

Clip (some) coupons. Coupons are great when they're for products you regularly use and when they make those products less costly than the generic brands, Horowitz said. But buying something you don't need just because you have a coupon is a waste of money. So clip judiciously.

Curb long-distance bills. Cancel your long-distance service and get a prepaid phone card instead from one of the wholesale price clubs, such as Sam's Club or Costco, Hunt suggests. You'll save on fees, cap how much you spend on long-distance calls and get some of the lowest per-minute rates -- often with fewer restrictions than those imposed by calling plans.

Sam's Club.com and Costco.com, for instance, offer pre-paid cards that won't cost you more than 3.5 cents per minute.

Turn clothes to cash. Clothes you don't like, furniture and appliances you never use and that Star Wars memorabilia even you've grown tired of -- all probably have cash potential, despite the mean things your spouse says about them.

Try any of the following: Donate them and get a tax-deduction; post them to online auction sites; sell them at consignment shops; or have a garage sale.

Keep yourself entertained. Don't want to forgo dinner parties? Host a potluck supper. Dying to go to the theater or to a major sporting event? Volunteer to usher and see the event for free, Horowitz said.

If you're crazy for books, magazines and CDs, visit your public library, where you can get all that and more for free. Libraries also may offer interesting lectures and entertainment for little or no admission fee.

Drive a car you can afford. Contrary to public opinion, you are not what you drive. You may need a car, but you probably don't need the hippest, priciest model.

Consider this, Robin said: There are 2,000 work hours in a year, assuming an eight-hour day and 50 weeks of work. If you buy a $20,000 car, you'll spend $5 of your net wages every hour for two years to pay for that car, not including interest payments.

If you do hit the showroom, be sure to bargain, Horowitz said. In fact, he bought a Saturn for $2,500 below sticker price because he told the dealer he would buy the dealer's car that day if he could match a deal he'd seen elsewhere. The dealer took the bait, charging Horowitz only $150 more than the Saturn cost.

Take in a tenant. Renting out your finished basement or spare room may make the difference between keeping your house or losing it when you're really squeezed for cash, Robin said. But be sure to get references and establish a trial period during which you may ask the person to leave if it's not working out, Horowitz said.

Let your credit card pay you. If you pay your credit card bills in full and on time every month, be sure to have a card that rewards you for your purchases, Horowitz said. Some, for instance, offer frequent flyer miles or cash back.

Share and share alike. Look for ways to share common expenses with others, Robin and Horowitz said. For instance, if you have young kids, consider trading babysitting services with other parents in your neighborhood, or carpool to work.

Conserve energy. There are lots of cheap, energy-saving tricks that will cut your heating and electricity bills. Among them, Horowitz said, put rope caulk around your windows and get outlet protectors -- the kind designed to prevent 2-year-olds from sticking forks in sockets. They'll cut down on drafts and prevent heat leakages.

Exercise for free. Unless it's your greatest pleasure, a health club membership can be a pricey way to sweat, especially if you go infrequently. Consider forgoing the monthly expense, and go hiking or biking on your own instead, Horowitz suggested.

Forgo some "optionals." Lattes in the morning and lunches out. Hiring a gardener and housekeeper. Getting your nails done. All are enjoyable indulgences when you're flush with cash. But during tough times, the little luxuries may need to go.

Hunt recommends looking at the money side of your life like a business. Temporary belt-tightening may be required -- but don't get discouraged, Hunt said. "It doesn't have to be forever."

 
 
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